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loss and grief

The Surprising Benefit Of Loss and Grief

Loss and grief have to be the most painful experiences I have ever had; you know that deep hole you feel when someone or something so incredibly priceless is missing from life? Thankfully as Christians, there is a beautiful and comforting benefit in store for us whenever we feel we’ve been robbed. 

For me, coping with illness was only part of the problem. Underneath the physical was the torment of going through life alone with no family, the loss of career, finances, holidays, ability to walk and even sit…I felt like loss was my cruel companion. The life that was once ahead of me no longer existed. 

Today I wanted to share with you, the one thing that has kept me going throughout all these years of pain: God’s promises of double restoration. 
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loneliness epidemic

The Loneliness Of Chronic Illness: The Solution

One of the hardest things for me in the past 20 years is the loneliness of chronic illness. In the early days, I struggled on my own with very few people understanding the impact the pain was having on my mental state, making me feel even more isolated.

Do you now feel different because you can no longer join in with ‘life’ and the activities you once enjoyed with others have now stopped? 

WE CRAVE CONNECTION

 

We crave connection and to be understood. It starts when we connect with our mothers the moment we’re held for the very first time. This gives acceptance, love and security. When illness happens though, we sense the lack of understanding by others which causes us to experience disconnection. 
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guilt and shame

Why A Guilty Conscience Hinders Healing

Famous Psychiatrist Karl Menninger, famously said that if he could convince those in his psychiatric hospitals that their sins were forgiven, 75% of them could walk out the next day.

One of my biggest enemies has to be a guilty conscience. Sometimes I feel I have a magnet in my head, attracting all the things I’ve ever done wrong, even those ‘perceived’ wrongs, to my thinking. Then I start to ruminate.

The condemning ‘I should have…’ ‘if only…’ type of thoughts often dominates thinking. Do you ruminate on mistakes and regrets and allow them to steal your present moments? Even if you’re not aware, on some level, a guilty conscience can sometimes ‘live’ in your unconscious. Your body remembers what the mind cannot.

You may even replay the painful memories of your sins, flaws or mistakes time and time again, like a bad movie. Too many of us are going around feeling guilty about the past. The Bible says this is an ‘evil conscience’. (Heb 10:22) .

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