If you’ve been struggling with illness for any length of time, you’ll be no stranger to guilt: ugly, miserable, hideous guilt. 

Guilty for not working, guilty for relying on others, guilty for not serving in church, guilty…guilty…guilty… Aargh!! Every time we fall short of the standard we, others or even society have set, the misery of guilt has the potential to start knocking. 

Other times we analyse our lives and ask ourselves ‘was it my personal sin that caused this sickness?’ ‘Is God punishing me?’ Even though in your conscious mind you know this isn’t true, deep down, somewhere in your innermost being, there’s that doubt.  (more…)

Hey everyone

“Shame is like traffic…and traffic has a memory…” Ps Sophia

I’m so excited to share with you this week’s message by Ps Sophia on Shame, something that resonates with all of us. That awful deep rooted feeling that you’re a bad person because of the things you’ve done wrong. She takes us right back to be beginning when Adam and Eve knew no shame in the garden. Then they took from the wrong tree and everything changed. They no longer relied upon God for their worth, they took control and rejected God. Whether we’re aware or not, we do the same thing! (more…)

So how do we recognise perfectionists and why is it damaging to our health? Depression, anxiety, OCD, low self esteem…..all common amongst perfectionists.

A few weeks ago, I was lying in bed with a thumping headache. I’d been writing an essay which I had finished at tea time. Instead of putting the essay away, I went through it again…and again…and again! I put in extra quotes and rewrote sentences. I did a bit more research to include in the essay, it had to be the best it could possibly be! Finally, it was past midnight and my essay was perfect! Yay! The problem though, was I ended up with a thumping headache. This is the result of perfection driving me. Can you relate? Writing an amazing essay gives me that feeling of success and achievement. Have I been behaving like this my whole life? How many times have I been late to church because my outfit just doesn’t look right? How many times have I felt bad about myself because i’ve said something wrong to someone? I’ve replayed a conversation in my head and wished I’d said something different.

It’s time to change. (more…)

 

So how do we conquer the feeling of not being good enough? Ps Sophia continues with the following points:

1. God doesn’t see our sin. He doesn’t say we don’t sin, he says he doesn’t see it. How awesome is that?! God has placed us in Jesus so if we’re saying we’re not quite good enough, we’re saying that Jesus isn’t good enough? Wow! Powerful stuff!

2. God sees us perfect and fully justified. He completely forgives us for all our wrong-doing. Can we really believe this and still feel not good enough? (more…)

Hey everyone!

Living with a long term illness can often make us feel like we’re failing in life, especially if the illness has impacted your family, relationships, career, finances and so on. The hopes and dreams you once had have disappeared. Now the only dream you have is to be well. It’s all too easy to look at people who are well and think that because they’re not ill, somehow they’re better than you or that you’re just not enough. (more…)